No one notices what you wear when you go to the gym or what you look like in it. Everyone is too concerned with what they’re doing.
No one is going to think you’re weird, if you order dressing on the side, extra veggies instead of rice, or an appetizer and a salad when you’re out. In fact, you may influence them to do the same.
Coworkers aren’t going to dislike you because you’re now bringing lunch to work instead of dining out daily with them.
Nine out of ten times, when you’re confident in why you’re doing what you’re doing and you’re proud of your work, people will follow you–not leave you.
Or, you ate dinner in front of the TV and didn’t even take the time to really taste your food?
Or, you grabbed a box of crackers out of the fridge while cooking dinner because you were so starving and mindlessly ate half the box?
We’ve all been there in some form or another.
Take a moment to check-in with yourself to recenter.
What am I doing?
Where am I?
And make the time to ask yourself, “Am I really hungry?” when the mindless munchies set in.
If not, ask yourself, “What am I really hungry for?”
You may find you’re hungry for sleep, friend time, reading time, exercise, and a whole host of other things.
You see, it’s not about the food. It’s about the void that’s being filled with food. Sometimes we need to fill “the life void” to take better care of us and our relationship with food.
It’s so easy for us to think about where we’re not. Instead, think about where you are. How far you’ve come.
The only person to compete against is yourself.
Along these lines, practicing gratitude is a sure-fire way to focus on positives in our life. Research shows that those who practice gratitude have increased feelings of life satisfaction, happiness, optimism, and enthusiasm. Gratitude has also been shown to help strengthen our immune systems, sleep better, have closer and more committed relationships, and reduce anxiety and depression.
Um, yes … I’ll take a side of gratitude-;)
Start practicing gratitude by writing 3-5 things down every day that you’re grateful for. Or, get a white board, hang it visibly in your office or home, and write down 3 things you’re grateful for each day.
Miscommunication is a huge cause of disgruntled relationships. Instead of assuming that your friend, colleague, spouse, or significant other meant something hurtful, talk about it. Come from a kind and curious perspective and frame it as to how their comment made you feel.
One time, I felt a girlfriend was very disapproving of my business decisions. She never said it, but I felt it. I finally mustered the courage to bring it up and said something like, “I know this may sound a little zanny, but when we talk about business, at times, I don’t know why, but I feel like you don’t approve of what direction I’ve decided to go.”
Saying the words was like removing a brick from my chest. We openly talked about it and my negative energy around the issue was gone.
Honest open communication is a very powerful thing.
If your life, hobby, family and passion are all different things, maybe it’s time to consolidate them into one. Then, you won’t suffer from the problems that come with a compartmentalized life.
When that one bothersome person frustrates you to the point of no return, remind yourself that you’re only annoyed at them because they’re different. You like the people most like you in the world, but in reality, being with people just like us never teaches us anything about growth and forgiveness. Differences with others stretch us; similarities comfort us.
When life comes and sweeps you off your feet, you have the choice to remain on the ground where people will coddle you or get up so people will be inspired by you. It’s not easy, but change never is.